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What is Enmeshment and How to Get Rid of It - Neil Strauss

Enmeshment is when a parent tries to get his or her own needs met through the child. Learn the various forms of enmeshment and how to get yourself beyond it Read more

15 Short, Powerful and Provocative Books Everyone Should Read

These are books that might just take a few hours or even minutes to read—but will stay with you far longer than that. Read more

Make Your Harshest Critic Work for You - Neil Strauss

It’s no secret—you are your harshest critic. That internal voice is constantly criticizing every move you do. Here's how to make that critic work for you. Read more

Tao of Seneca – Free PDFs | The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss

My team and I have been working on this for more than six months, and it's finally finished!   The Tao of Seneca: Letters from a Stoic Master is a small thank-you gesture to all of you -- three volumes of Stoic writing starring Seneca, complete wi... Read more

How to Get Excited About Topics That Bore You

A four-step process. Read more

37 Wise & Life-Changing Lessons From The Ancient Stoics

The private diaries of one of Rome’s greatest emperors, the personal letters of one of Rome’s best playwrights and wisest power brokers, the lectures of a former slave and exile, turned influential Read more

The 10 Most Important Things to Simplify in Your Life

Based on our personal journey, our conversations, and our observations, here is a list of the 10 most important things to simplify in your life today. Read more

How To Develop Self-Awareness With These 27 Exercises

I’m doing it again. I can feel it. Like a toothpick, my thumbnail rests in the gap between two teeth. It’s the position it takes right before I bite it. When I catch myself, like right now, I can… Read more

The Three Key Steps to Conquering Your Next Pursuit

By Brian Clark This last weekend, I rewatched the critically-acclaimed film Creed. If you’re not familiar, it’s the reboot of the Rocky franchise, this time focusing on Apollo Creed’s son, Adonis (Donny). The training regimens of the boxers in the... Read more

Why Perseverance Crushes Talent When it Comes to Success

By Brian Clark In a moving preface to her first book, Angela Duckworth shared her story of growing up as one of three children of Chinese immigrants. Her father was particularly hard to please, and he had a favourite phrase for Angela and her sibl... Read more

Rushing to Forgiveness Can Be Worse Than Holding a Grudge -- Science of Us

And it’s not always the best choice, either. Read more

I do whatever I want at work and I haven’t been fired yet

A few of us at Basecamp were recently discussing how decisions get made to “green light” new projects, and I came to the conclusion that it boils down a simple rule: If you can make a decision and you don’t think it’s going to get you fired, just... Read more

The Not-To-Do List: 9 Habits to Stop Now | The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss

This is how the world felt before Crackberries. (LeoLuigi) "Not-to-do" lists are often more effective than to-do lists for upgrading performance. The reason is simple: what you don't do determines what you can do. Read more

The Unsettled | The Outline

It's easier than ever to live with no fixed address, but that doesn't come without a cost. Read more

Use Gratitude to Rewire Your Brain

Gratitude literally rewires your brain. It strengthens neural pathways that make you happier and more resilient. Here's a practical guide to gratitude. Read more

Morning Routines and Strategies | The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss

"Routine, in an intelligent man, is a sign of ambition." - W. H. Auden This is a special episode of the podcast. After more than 200 conversations with the world's top performers, you start to spot certain patterns. Read more

The company isn’t a family – Signal v. Noise

The best companies aren’t families. They’re supporters of families. Allies of families. There to provide healthy, fulfilling work environments so when workers shut their laptops at a reasonable hour, they’re the best husbands, wives, parents, sibl... Read more

On The Shortness of Life: An Introduction to Seneca

Samurai and Seneca agreed: comfort with death brings better living. "We don’t beat the Reaper by living longer. We beat the Reaper by living well. Read more

Does the Unconscious Really Exist?

It's one of the oldest ideas in psychology. We are said to have an unconscious mind that, despite our best conscious intentions, is the real controlling force in our lives. It leads us to sabotage ourselves, make poor decisions, or be drawn to peo... Read more

The 4 Keys to Learning Anything

I’ve been studying how to learn, as I try to teach myself new skills … and absolutely love learning new things. But I keep running up against a few key problems. Read more

Amor Fati: Learning To Love And Accept Everything That Happens

“You ought to be preparing yourself…to hear truths, which no inflexibility will be able to withstand,” James Madison once wrote to Thomas Jefferson. What he means is that stuff is going to happen to us in life. You gotta be ok with it. That whi... Read more

Women Have More Active Brains Than Men: World's Largest Brain Study

Largest functional brain imaging study to date identifies the specific brain differences between women and men. Read more

Ask Kids "What Did You Fail at Today?"  

At elite colleges, faculty members have been noticing a problem. Many students, while impressive on paper, seem to be unable to cope with simple struggles—getting assigned to a dorm room they’re not thrilled with, scoring less than an A-minus on a... Read more

Oliver Sacks on the Three Essential Elements of Creativity

"It takes a special energy, over and above one's creative potential, a special audacity or subversiveness, to strike out in a new direction once one is settled Read more

The Difference Between Amateurs and Professionals

Uncover the key differences between amateurs and professionals that make a difference and improve the prospects of success. Read more

Why we all need pain

The pain after a breakup can lead to immense suffering, but it can also be an opportunity for tremendous growth and love. Read more

The Ten Most Important Books To Expand Your Brain

Books suck. No question about it, almost everyone who writes a book is a crappy writer. Read more

The scientific link between boredom and creativity

As an only child who grew up before the rise of the Internet, boredom was my constant companion. Summers were an endless stretch of riding my bike around town, reading, and staring up into the sky, imagining stories that I later wrote into my tatt... Read more

The Key To Happiness Is Realizing That Everything Sucks

It sounds crazy I know, but it’s true. The key to happiness, to success, to power—any of these things—is not to want them really bad. It’s not putting what you’re after on a pedestal. The key to happiness and success is realizing at a granular ... Read more

The Golden Age of Bailing

Flaking out on commitments has become so easy. Read more

Let Science Explain Why Your Coworkers Are Slackers

The more people on a team, the greater the likelihood that not everyone will pull their weight. Read more

How to Use Anger to Your Advantage - Further

Anger – it’s the emotion we’re supposed to manage, minimize, and avoid at all costs. Is expressing it in certain situations advantageous? Read more

Your Brain on Text

Athletes look different from non athletes. Similarly, the brains of literate people are different from those who do not read. The neural differences are not visible, of course. Yet, they have profound consequences for brain function, intelligence,... Read more

How reading fiction makes you smarter

Reading fiction has some scientifically-proven benefit Read more

20 Years Ago, Steve Jobs Demonstrated the Perfect Way to Respond to an Insult

In 1997, Steve Jobs was answering developers' questions when one audience member took a shot at him. What happens next is remarkable. Read more

The Ancient Greeks had two different concepts of time

The Greeks second concept of time, 'Kairos' time, requires rethinking our modern conceptions of efficiency and “getting things done.” Read more

10X Your Results, One Tiny Action at a Time (The Power of Incremental Progress)

Peter Drucker once said “People often overestimate what they can accomplish in one year. But they greatly underestimate what they could accomplish in five years.” Many people can’t follow through on… Read more

The danger of expectations

Mindless relationship bickering — many do it, some don’t understand it, and others are just perplexed by it. Everyone knows “that” couple who constantly bickers or has conflict — maybe that’s even you. But what if the amount of bickering in your ... Read more

Love in the Age of Hyperbole | Valentine's Day

New York Times bestselling author & transformational journalist, Neil Strauss, examines how, as a culture, we mistake unhealthy obsession for romantic love. Read more

You have the right to say “no”

“No” — it’s a small word that packs a lot of power. It carries with it an invisible force that can make it feel like an overly oppressive, or even a dirty word. It’s no wonder so many people are uncomfortable saying it. But the truth is, when you... Read more

No “yes.” Either “HELL YEAH!” or “no.”

Derek Sivers: Use this rule if you’re often over-committed or too scattered. Read more

100 Things I Learned in 10 Years and 100 Reads of Marcus Aurelius's Meditations

Meditations would be for me, what Tyler Cowen would call a “a quake book,” shaking everything I thought I knew about the world. Read more

Everything You Need To Know About Confidence, Ego, And Humility Explained In One 3,000 Year Old Story

We generally admit that humility is a virtue and ego is a vice. Yet this black and white definition is made complicated by the fact that any sensible person would also admit that confidence is important. We’d say it’s more than important—we kno... Read more

Wendy Troxel: Why school should start later for teens

Teens don't get enough sleep, and it's not because of Snapchat, social lives or hormones -- it's because of public policy, says Wendy Troxel. Drawing from her experience as a sleep researcher, clinician and mother of a teenager, Troxel discusses h... Read more

What We Finally Got Around to Learning at the Procrastination Research Conference

“In the end time is going to kill us. The only thing that limits us is time. You can get another job or lover. But you can’t get more time,” said Jean O’Callaghan of University of Roehampton in London, regarding why she studies procrastination. Read more

A neuroscientist who studies decision-making reveals the most important choice you can make

Neuroscientist Moran Cerf has found people's brain activity aligns when they're in each other's company. The finding can be used to maximize happiness. Read more

Your Ultimate Guide For Waking Up Early

It took me four years of researching, experimenting, and a lot of excuses, to finally reach a point where waking up early as a habit is under my command. But it was worth it. I presume the reason you… Read more

Want to Be Much Happier? Science Says Always Do Any 1 of These 8 Things

Greater happiness can be found in unexpected ways. Science says so. Read more

Your Career Happiness Might Hinge On How You Define This Word

Success means different things to everyone. So why do we still think about it the same way? Read more

How to Gain Power, According to Science

Researchers show how we tap into our brains to become a more effective leader and positive influence on others. Read more

Smart People Are More Likely to Stereotype

A new study complicates the trope of the stupid bigot. Read more

Here’s Why You Should Think About Death Every Day

In late 1569, a French nobleman named Michel de Montaigne was given up as dead after being flung from a galloping horse. As his friends carried his limp and bloodied body home, Montaigne watched his own life slip away, like some dancing spirit ... Read more

How Changing Your Reading Habits Can Transform Your Health

Reading doesn’t just improve your knowledge, it can help fight depression, make you more confident, empathetic, and a better decision maker. Read more

Mental Models: The Best Way to Make Intelligent Decisions (113 Models Explained)

The smartest people in the world use mental models to solve difficult problems, avoid stupidity, increase productivity, and free up time. Read more

Mental Models: How to Train Your Brain to Think in New Ways

Read this and learn about the mental models that intelligent people, like Nobel Prize winning physicist Richard Feynman, use to solve unsolvable problems. Read more

Bret Victor - Inventing on Principle

Bio: Bret Victor invents tools that enable people to understand and create. He has designed experimental UI concepts at Apple, interactive data graphics for Al Gore, and musical instruments at Alesis. Read more

The Mindfulness of Pure Experience

Dropping any story or narrative in your head about what’s happening right now … what are the sensations you’re feeling at this moment? What are you smelling, tasting, feeling, hearing, seeing? What colors, textures, qualities of light can you p... Read more

23 things everyone can do to create a life-changing morning routine

This article reflects on the importance of morning routines, and how they affect your life, and what you can to create a perfect morning routine. Read more

A new blueprint for happiness

Whenever you are happy with something in your life, it is because right now, the conditions of your life match your blueprint, or your belief about how life should be in that particular area. Read more

This Simple Philosophical Puzzle Shows How Difficult It Is to Know Something - Facts So Romantic - Nautilus

What is knowledge? Well, thinkers for thousands of years had more or less taken one definition for granted: Knowledge is “justified… Read more

3 ways to get rid of anger, according to neuroscience | Ladders

How can you control angry emotions? Looking at the neuroscience, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do it. Here's how. Read more

Loneliness a bigger killer than obesity, say researchers

Two new meta-analyses suggest that loneliness and social isolation are greater risk factors for early death than obesity and other public health threats. Read more

How To Make Bold Decisions When Others Want You To Play Safe

Is your current path actually taking you in the direction you truly want to go?If not, how do you get yourself on one that does? Once on a better path, how do you ensure you stay the path to achieve… Read more

How to Win the Smartphone-Brain Battle

A 60 Minutes story aired on April 9 focused on how Silicon Valley is engineering your smartphone, apps, and social media platforms to get you hooked. The gist was that programmers are aware of what they need to do to make your brain addicted to th... Read more

10 Reasons Why People Who Read A Lot Are More Likely To Be Successful

We’re taught from a very young age that reading as much as possible is the pathway to success and fulfillment. Picture the smartest, hardest-working person you know, and chances are you picture them in a library poring over a variety of texts for ... Read more

To Come Up with a Good Idea, Start by Imagining the Worst Idea Possible

It’s called reverse thinking. Read more

This Three-Word Phrase Is Subtly Undermining Your Authority

Sounding confident, transparent, and truthful doesn’t require any prefaces. Read more

How to Make Your Own Luck

Learn how to get lucky. Ever wonder why some people are luckier than others? Well, you can be one of the lucky ones too. Read more

The Amazing Self-Confidence Habit

How often has a lack of self-confidence, or a feeling of inadequacy, stopped us from doing something awesome? Read more

‘The 4-Hour Workweek’ Author Says A 3-Step Process He Learned From Tony Robbins Drastically Improved His Life

The Dickens Process, as the exercise is called, is done in a venue typically packed with a few thousand people. Read more

These Are The 4 Emotional-Intelligence Job Skills You’ll Need In The Future

Here are four easy ways to build your EQ. Read more

Entropy: Why Life Always Seems to Get More Complicated

Entropy is one of the fundamental forces of our universe. And the Second Law of Thermodynamics states that it will never decrease. Read this to learn more. Read more

A Guide to Getting Good at Dealing with Chaos

It is a wonderful thing to have order to our lives, to simplify and have routines and systems that make things peaceful, organized, and calm. Unfortunately, life likes to throw chaos and disorganization our way. Things get disrupted, people ... Read more

How to Not Be Overwhelmed

Feeling overwhelmed? You might have to retrain people on how they contact you. Learn how to recognize the patterns and reclaim more of your time. Read more

What is your top human need?

Discover the forces that drive your decisions and behavior with this quick quiz. Read more

Who is in charge of your emotions?

Everyone wants to make their life better, but what defines our mood more than our emotions? Discover who is in charge of your emotions and take control. Read more

Stress: The contagious disease

You may think that your stress has a negative effect on you — but that’s not the whole story. Your stress has an impact on everyone around you! Here’s how. Read more

The Key To Happiness Is To See Beauty in Everything (Even Ugly Things)

We can forget so easily, in life, the randomness and absurd yet somehow functional, coordination of this world we call home, this thing we know as existence. Read more

Why I walk

It’s 4:39am in Seattle. My wife’s asleep in our bed, safe and warm. Curled up next to her is Prim, our nine year old rottweiler/lab. Her paws twitch as she dreams. I often wonder what my old dog dreams about. In dog years, she’s on the darke... Read more

Why Do Smart People Do Foolish Things?

Intelligence is not the same as critical thinking and the difference matters Read more

Before you can be with others, first learn to be alone

In 1840, Edgar Allan Poe described the ‘mad energy’ of an ageing man who roved the streets of London from dusk till dawn. His excruciating despair could be temporarily relieved only by immersing himself in a tumultuous throng of city-dwellers. ‘He... Read more

How to Be Awesome

Philosophy professor Nick Riggle offers “a unified theory of how not to suck” Read more

The Centuries-Old Strategy That Turbocharged My Productivity

It’s an old-school paper-planner system that requires a little micromanaging, but the payoff is worth the work. Read more

How to Be Mindful in an Argument 8

Just because we disagree with someone, it doesn’t have to become a heated exchange. Staying mindful during an argument allows us to choose conversation, discourse and debate in ways that do not escalate the situation.” — Holly Duckworth, a speaker... Read more

Openness to Experience: The Gates of the Mind

People who are “open to experience” literally see the world differently Read more

Why You’re More Emotionally Intelligent on the Phone: We Read Voices Better than Faces

In workplaces and families across the world, communication has gone online. We send endless emails; we video chat rather than travel across town to meet. Actually sitting down and interacting with someone in person can seem like a rare luxury. But... Read more

The Purpose of Life Isn’t to Be Happy

It found its way into the English language around the 14th century, and it wasn’t something that people actively pursued. It was thought that you either stumbled onto it or you didn’t. It wasn’t… Read more

Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | TED Talk

In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you su... Read more

Tell Me What You Read, And I’ll Tell You Who You Are

Not only is space exploration an industry dominated by governments, but for someone without any background in space technology to go in with the belief that they could help drive meaningful progress… Read more

9 Tips to Feel and Perform Better

The best don’t worry about being the best; they worry about being the best at getting better. What follows are a handful of principles — mindsets, really — that I’ve observed in people who are able… Read more

25 Recommendations For Life Changing Biographies For The Voracious Reader In You

Smart people read biographies. Generalizations are usually worthless, but you can pretty much take this one to the bank. Look at their libraries and you’ll see, one biography and memoir and… Read more

Maybe We All Need a Little Less Balance

In praise of the unbalanced life. Read more

Introvert Or Extrovert? Here’s Another Way To Think About Your Personality

The popular dichotomy between introverts and extroverts obscures a more important factor: how well you can adapt your personality to a given situation. Read more

Want Your Best Employees to Never Leave You? Successful Leaders Do Any of These 4 Things Daily

If you follow these practices, expect a steady rise to the top. Read more

Anger is temporary madness: the Stoics knew how to curb it

People get angry for all sorts of reasons, from the trivial ones (someone cut me off on the highway) to the really serious ones (people keep dying in Syria and nobody is doing anything about it). But, mostly, anger arises for trivial reasons. That... Read more

How to Get Your Mind to Read

Comprehension depends on what you already know. Let’s start there. Read more

How to Get Motivated When You Don't Feel Like It

It's hard to be motivated all of the time. The strategies in this article teach you how to get motivated, regardless of how you feel. Read more

Sometimes The Only Way Out Is Through

If I learned one thing from distance running, it’s that sometimes you just have to gut it out. When you’re tired… When it hurts too bad… When you’re way behind… You just have to gut through it. And what you learn when you do this is th... Read more

10 Regrets Too Many People Will Have in 10 Years

In the end, more than anything else, we regret the small chances we didn’t take, the priceless relationships we were too busy to nurture, and the good decisions we waited too long to make. Read more

24 Books to hone your strategic mind

Strategy isn’t something that’s taught well in school. Hell, most people probably couldn’t tell you the difference between “strategy” and “tactics” (or even know there is a difference.) This is unfortunate, because strategy is something that is... Read more

The Best of the Crowd-Sourced Reading Project

Which books would you like to see analyzed? What skills do you want to learn? Find out here about the Inner-Circle crowd-sourced reading project. Read more

Why we should all stop saying “I know exactly how you feel”

You’re taking attention from someone who just wants to be heard. Here’s how to be more considerate in conversation, says Celeste Headlee. Read more

Warren Buffett’s “2 List” Strategy: How to Maximize Your Focus and Master Your Priorities

With well over 50 billion dollars to his name, Warren Buffett is consistently ranked among the wealthiest people in the world. Out of all the investors in the 20th century, Buffett was the most successful. Given his success, it stands to reason... Read more

Looking at stress differently can help career

No one likes being stressed out, but did you know you can actually use it to your advantage? Here's how one small tweak will help you master the pressure. Read more

Starting Your Day on the Internet Is Damaging Your Brain

I’ve said before the first 3 hours of your day can dictate how your life turns out. And this often begins with the very first thing that you decide to put in your brain. You can either start you day… Read more

The 40% Rule: The Simple Secret To Success

There is no shortage of business books on the market (including mine), most of which claim to hold the secrets to success. As a business book writer myself, I’m not inclined to disparage any of these. Most offer useful tactics that entrepreneurs ... Read more

How to Find Happiness Where You Least Expect It

Many years ago, I worked with a remarkable man who’d spent 20 years as a monk before getting married, starting a family, and becoming an educator. He was making a brief stop in the UK, and I had the afternoon free, so I took him to Hampton Court P... Read more

How Writing 1000 Words a Day Changed my Life

When I interviewed Julien Smith for the first time in 2012, he had one of the most popular blogs on the internet. Of all the things he shared with me in our conversation, one thing he said stood out… Read more

A Stanford psychologist on the art of avoiding assholes

"Not giving a shit takes the wind out of an asshole's sails." Read more

4 Reasons to Be Grateful for Annoying People

Turn that annoying person’s presence in your life into something better. Can they teach you something? Or steer you in a different and better direction? Read more

How to Completely Ignore Distractions and Consistently Enter Flow States

According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in his book Flow, flow is “the optimal state of consciousness where we feel our best and perform our best.” Most people sleepwalk through life without ever… Read more

This Is How To Use Mindfulness To Make Better Decisions

Often you know what you need to do but worries and concerns get in the way. Here's how mindfulness can help you make better decisions. Read more

Better Living Through Empathy

We often take a “glass half empty” approach when considering empathy. In popular media and research studies alike, the consequences of a lack of empathy tend to be emphasized. We are warned of the perils of the office narcissist or psychopath who ... Read more

The Powerful Psychological Boost that Helps You Make and Break Habits

I have a confession to make. For as long as I can remember, I’ve chewed my fingernails. It started as a nervous habit when I was young, and then morphed into an undesirable grooming ritual. In other words, I became so skilled at chewing my n... Read more

The Japanese skill copied by the world

Mindfulness has become trendy around the world in recent years – but in Japan, it’s been ingrained into the culture for centuries. Read more

How to Control Your Emotions During a Difficult Conversation

Getting worked up will only make things worse. Read more

How to Get Your Pride and Humility Back in Balance

Pride gets a bad rap sometimes. Pride is not, in and of itself, bad. In fact, it can be a powerful motivator for personal growth. In fact, as Jessica Tracy argues right there the in the subtitle of her book Take Pride, “The deadliest sin hol... Read more